The Painful and Ugly Words of Bullyism ( resubmitted due to image editing)

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As the above poster depicts, words can be painful and destructive weapons inflicted on a victim who will bleed emotionally. The media has provided much information on bullyism within our schools and playgrounds and how our children are wounded and permanently scared by such a painful experience. Indeed, adults are also victims in this world of evil, dysfunctional people who demean and humiliate us and damage our self image.

Adult bullying frequently does occur in the work setting in the form of sexual harassment and sexist behaviors towards female workers. Such bullying provokes a sense of helplessness and the embarrassment of seeking support from superiors for fear of job loss or denial of promotions. Persistent and unending bullying and abuse is a causal factor of depression and medical problems associated with stress. Adult bullyism also occurs within the home and in relationships within the family. As noted in the graphic on this post, the woman featured exhibits much fear and the need to protect herself physically and emotionally.Is that you?

I am sure that there are many readers who have experienced adult bullyism and need to voice their fears and sense of degradation by a bully who is suppose to love and respect them. Yes, men can also be victims of bullyism and should not feel shame in revealing such a dysfunctional behavior pattern in our world inflicted upon you by wounded bullies who displace their pain upon others. Let me hear your voice and what you are feeling, the theme of this blog.

In future postings, I will continue to discuss adult bullyism and childhood bullies will be presented at a later date. Research on these topics and strategies in resolving bullyism will be provided one blog at a time, one soul at a time.

The Painful and Ugly Words of Bullism

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As the above poster depicts, words can be painful and destructive weapons inflicted on a victim who will bleed emotionally. The media has provided much information on Bullyism within our schools and playgrounds and how our children are wounded and permanently scared by such a painful experience. Indeed, adults are also victims in this world of evil, dysfunctional people who demean and humiliate us and damage our self image.

Adult bullying frequently does occur in the work setting in the form of sexual harassment and sexist behaviors towards female workers. Such bullying provokes a sense of helplessness and the embarrassment of seeking support from superiors for fear of job loss or denial of promotions. Persistant and unending bullying and abuse is a causal factor of depression and medical problems associated with stress. Adult bullyism also occurs within the home and in relationships within the family. As noted in the graphic on this post, the woman featured exhibits much fear and the need to protect herself physically and emotionally. Is that you?

I am sure that there are many readers who have experienced adult bullyism and need to voice their fears and sense of degradation by a bully who is suppose to love and respect them. Yes, men can also be victims of bullyism and should not feel shame in revealing such a dysfunctional behavior pattern in our world inflicted upon you by wounded bullies who displace their pain on others. Let me hear your voice and what you are feeling, the theme of this blog.

In future postings, I will continue to discuss adult bullyism and childhood bullies will be presented at a later date. Research on these topics and strategies in resolving bullyism will be provided one blog at a time, one soul at a time.

Bullyism and How it effects lives

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I now will begin my posts on the topic of BULLYISM and end my discussions on RACISM. This “ism” is equally as destructive as the cancer of racism and is as violent and hateful as the actions and beliefs of those who are afflicted with this dysfunctional and violent disorder.

Upon my research on the compilation of the definitions of BULLYISM, the American Psychological Association ( of which I am a clinical member) their definition of this behavior is that it is a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle action. The bullied individual typically has trouble defending him or herself and does nothing to “cause” the bullying.

In future posts, I will provide additional definitions of this term, bullyism. As noted in the above definition, bullyism is not just focused on the behavior of children but can also be applied to adults. I will describe the various types of bullyism such as verbal, social, physical and cyberbullism.

The graphics noted above do provoke the feelings and depictions of the concept of bullys and hopefully will whet your interest in this topic. I will also, in the following posts, describe my next children’s book, NICKI NICE’S BULLY, which does introduce the young reader to a new friend who helps the child understand bullys and the cause of their hurtful behavior.At the end of this book, Nicki Nice does help the reader find a way to cope with a bully and change his behavior. This book will be the first of five series of books on Nicki Nice, a nice friend, who will inform young readers about learning problems, divorce, sibling rivalry and a death in the family. Nicki Nice’s views are represented by the experiences and opinions of my granddaughter, Nicole. Yes, I will be posting on all of those topics in my future Blogs.

It is hoped that you will let us hear your voice and what you are feeling about adult bullies in your life and, perhaps, in the life of your children and grandchildren.

What Does It Really Mean: Racism

Maya Angelou
Maya Angelou

The beautiful woman that is pictured above was one of the most outstanding inspirational poet, author, actress, dancer and advocate of the human race, black, white and any human being walking on this earth. In her life, she guided and encouraged all of those that touched her soul in person and or in her writings.

In the presentations that I made to many, I always quoted Maya’s words and thoughts and I will begin this post, which will define the meaning of “racism”, with one of her quotations and end the post with yet another profound quote.

” We all should know that diversity makes for a rich tapestry,
and we must understand that all the threads of the tapestry
are equal in value no matter what their color.”

The following is an excerpt from my book, FAMILY SECRETS: A JOURNEY OF GOOD AND EVIL;

“In my research of the true definition of racism, there were so many versions of this word, this noun that does become a verb of hatred and violence. I will attempt to summarize an astute definition and a compilation of this term.

Racial prejudice is an insidious moral and social disease affecting peoples and populations all over the world. It is diagnosed by the cataloging of its various symptoms and manifestations, which include fear, intolerance, separation, segregation, discrimination, and hatred.

This incredible definition of racism so correlated with the clinical diagnosis of cancer and the progress it makes in the destruction of a body, a system, the world. The single underlying cause of racial prejudice is ignorance which is most comparable to cancer patients before a diagnosis is revealed.

While all humans belong to the same specie, Homo sapiens, races are distinguished from one another by such characteristics as hair color and texture, skin color and eye color. Scientists have concluded that these differences are superficial and have further agreed that all members of the specie, Homo sapiens, have more characteristics in common than any differences. Mankind views one another from the features that are outwardly perceived.The problem arises when the symptoms of the disease become evident–intolerance, separation and hatred. Such differences separate individuals into groups with one group being inferior to the other.

When we meet others for the first time, we fill in the blanks with such expectations that certain races are intellectually superior, others are full of avarice and another is more artistically or athletically inclined. These presumptions are formed by society, the media and most importantly by our own families. These ideas have been taught directly or indirectly by our parents.

The most profound answer to the eradication of this disease called racism is found in the Bible.
“Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart
and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This is the
first and greatest scripture. The second is “Love your neighbor
as yourself.”

It is hoped that prayer and the love of God will cure this disease and prevent it from spreading like the cancer demon.I hope and pray that the world will be a different place, not filled with evil but filled with good and love for our neighbors as we love ourselves.”

I would like to add at the end of this excerpt from my book and this post, another quotation from Maya Angelou;

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but people will never
forget how you made them feel.”

It is hoped that you will let us all know “whatsyourfeeling” in response to this post.

My next post will begin a series on a new topic of the other social disease, bullying.

The Pain of Racism and Antisemitism of the Holocaust

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The term racism and anti-Semitism are completely similar in that they both pertain to the irrational hatred of others due to their physical and religious appearance and affiliation. As we all know, the Jews were hated and many destroyed because of their appearance and religious affiliation. The Nazis determined that those of aryan features and heritage were acceptable in Hitler’s world and those who did not meet that description were doomed to die. This hatred of non-aryan people was so similar to the hatred that was and still is exhibited by the racists in our own country.

The photos above are actual pictures of non-aryan or Jewish children who were tortured and killed because of their religious affiliation and physical features. Such hideous hatred and violent behavior of their Nazi monsters were influenced by the upbringing and conditioning of these people who hated those that were different as exhibited in the lyrics of the tune from the production of SOUTH PACIFIC, “You have to be carefully taught to hate and fear, You’ve got to be taught from year to year”.

I will now present an excerpt from my book, FAMILY SECRETS: A JOURNEY OF GOOD AND EVIL, which describes an incident involving a young Jewish child as reported by Brandy, the protagonist in this novel.

“Coincidently, in my readings, I read a novel, THE REMBRANDT AFFAIR, written by Daniel Silva that described a horrific event in the life of a child of Jewish descent, Lena Herzfeld, who was hiding and living in a attic along with her family away from the Nazi stormtroopers. Unfortunately,Lena made a fatal decision which led to the discovery of her family hiding in this attic. The family were captured and sentenced to die because of their heritage. A devious Nazi officer, SS HAUPSTURMFUHRER KURT VOSS, forced her father to make a decision as to which of his two daughters would be permitted to live and not to be sent to the gas chambers. The father could not make this horrific decision. Therefore, the Nazi officer decided that because one of the two children was blue eyed and blonde haired, resembling Aryan children as opposed to her sister who had brown hair and brown eyes, the fair haired child was spared death and the gas chamber. This child grew up with this haunting memory of discrimination and racism and the loss of her sister because of her coloring.

When Himmler, a Nazi officer, motivated his soldiers to carry out his murderous orders by dehumanizing the Jews, he claimed that the Jews were similar to common fleas and mice. Such venom needed to be fumigated and removed from this world. They were disgusting lower forms of life who deserved to be exterminated.

Aryans were defined as people with four grandparents, all belonging to the Aryan race. Pollution of the gene pool was forbidden, and those who only had two Jewish grandparents were defined as Mischlinges, meaning a person of mixed heritage. Mischlinges were not allowed to have sexual relationships with either Jews or Aryans and were doomed to have no children and die. Today, the Holocaust is used as the primary warning and example of the advancement of racism. From Hitler and the Nazis to the Southern American slave owners, prejudice of one race against another has resulted in atrocities. To counteract the disease of racial prejudice, modern societies have drafted and enacted legislation to ensure that people treat one another with respect and dignity. While such actions can be legislated , individual’s beliefs continue to be carefully taught by families and peers and may not be easily changed. Society continues to suffer from the disease of racism and prejudice.

The most profound answer to the eradication of this disease is found in the Bible.

Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God
with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind.” This is the
first and greatest scripture. The second
is “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Luke 10:26-27

It is hoped that prayer and the love of God will cure this disease and prevent it from spreading like the cancer demon. I have been afflicted with the cancer demon that is taking my life, and I have also experienced the demon of prejudice throughout my time on this earth. This research article was created to reveal to the world that throughout the centuries, millions of innocent souls have suffered and died because of ignorance and hatred. As a cockeyed optimist, a label from the production, SOUTH PACIFIC, I hope and pray that the world will be a different place, not filled with evil but filled with good and love for our neighbors as we love ourselves.”

It is hoped that you did enjoy reading this long, book excerpt and take the time to voice,”whatsyourfeeling” in this blog post.

In my next posting, I will provide a definition of the term racism which I have been using so frequently in all of my posts.